Is it like everything else they swing back and forth, any rage or venom out of the ordinary stuff that goes with this terrible situation.

just ring and tell him that it could not go on like that so you had no choice, if at any point you think he is a danger to himself you need to call the cops and get him help. Remember you are doing what is best for you and that’s what matters the most. take care good luck

you know that they do not tell everything that they go through for many different reasons, but you have seen many more symptoms than what Bipolar suggests, and after reading and studying you feel it could possably be schizoaffective disorder. How could you go about gettin the right info to the doc. and allowing your heart to rest easy knowing he knows all the symptoms and can make a better judged diagnoses?

She ‘s not going to tell you everything. She may eventually but be patient. It’s just a self-defense thing.

Be careful of reading about other disorders unless you’re sure she has it. Bipolar can often be misdiagnosed. It can also occur with other disorders.
Personally I have Bipolar, Borderline and OCD. All related to each other.

I suggest you take her to another doc and get her freshly diagnosed. Keep doing it until you are both at ease with the diagnosis. Don’t suggest anything else or try to influence them. It may skew the diagnosis incorrectly. If you tell the doc it’s shizoaffective disorder that may influence things.

And by the way, you have my total sympathy. It’s hard for us but I think it’s worse for our families.

what sorts of behavior

OMG can I answer you. One minute you are the best wife around, you can do no wrong and he loves you. The next minute he is throwing his dinner at the wall because he was hungry 10 minutes ago, OR he wanted THAT to eat last night, and HOW DARE you for fixing it now. He will sleep all the time, then not really sleep for weeks. You sex life either is all the time or it’s not at all. When you want to talk about your needs and feelings or even just about your day he is busy because HE has had a much worse day then you could ever think of. You have to walk on egg shells because you never know what will set him off. sometimes you could fart wrong and get yelled at. And the botom line is that YOU are the root of all evil. He wanted to go fishing and YOU made it rain. Things are always at the extreme…. Sound like your life? Email me for more.

My wife of 5 yrs that i had a great relationship with moved out to help her troubled son. Then she decided to stop managing her illness and went off her meds. She has been in a manic rapid cycle state and started an affair. I let her go finally and wonder if she will be calling me when she gets back on meds?

i’m bipolar and i take meds, and first off- thats the worst thing a bipolar person could do- stop taking their meds. you can’t manage a mental illness without medication. i’m willing to bet she’ll come to her senses and come back to you once she’s stabilized. i’ve gone off my meds a couple of years ago and i did stupid things too, and once i got restabilized i couldn’t believe i had done the things i’d done…if you do take her back, please make it conditional that she has to keep taking her meds, it will be the best thing for her!!

Bi Polar disease is a term that more and more people are beginning to recognize. It is a heart wrenching condition that not only affects the life of the individual afflicted with it but touches the hearts of their family and friends as well. So why is it becoming more familiar? Perhaps because it is being better diagnosed and the general public feel painfully aware and personally touched by its prevalence.

It is devastating in itself when this disease affects an individual with a support system of family and friends. It is almost impossible to comprehend what it must be like for those who stand alone in partnership with this awful disorder. One thing is for certain, neither the disease nor the loneliness is a condition of choice.

If those of us who are fortunate enough not to be touched or affected by Bipolar disorder were to reach out to those who are, then perhaps the suicide rate which is high amongst the patients of this disease, would drop. It is estimated that about 3 – 4% of US adults suffer from it, and that about half of the US suicide deaths are in patients with Bipolar disease. So, if we as individuals sit back and tell ourselves that it does not concern us, we are sadly mistaken.

Not only does it affect us from an emotional and moral point of view, it affects us in indirect ways as well. Aside from the healthcare and treatment costs, it has an impact on the afflicted person’s job and professional life.  Many of these individuals are not able to fend for themselves and function in normal daily routines. This means not being able to work, or provide for themselves and their families. In such cases the government needs to assume the total responsibility; i.e., millions of dollars required from the social services sector to supply food, housing, clothing, educational, and health care costs.

The hope on the horizon for these individuals may very well be lithium based drug treatment.  This therapeutic modality is not new, (it was used in the late 1900’s), and has been successfully used to treat a variety of mental disorders such as bi-polar and borderline personality disorder. However, they are not without side effects. And as technology progresses, so does the new drug treatment market. The question that comes to the fore is have these new medications achieved better treatment goals than their predecessors?  The debate is still out and thus the statistical research continues.

The priority here is to determine if the pharmaceutical treatment has adequately contributed to reduce the suffering experienced by bipolar patients, and in turn their friends and families? Whether directly affected by the disease or not, whether the stricken person is alone or part of a family unit, it is something all of us need to stop and think about. This disease is everybody’s problem because in some way, shape or form it most definitely does affect the community.

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I have married my wife 20 years this December. Looking back she the more than likely was developing the diese then.
5 years later things started getting worse, and have continued to get worse to present. She was finnally dianosed 5 years ago as being Bipolor. Meds seem to help at times, but then we are back to the mania and depression. Se hasn’t worked on over 6 years. I have taken a second full time job to make ends meet. When the depression hits there is no cooking, cleaning, much less conversation. Sex is just a memory, although, (Yes ladies i am man) I think that to be a very important aspect of marrige.The mania manifest itself as anger, not usually at me, but at anything or anyone she seems to be fixated on at the time. We went though a round not long ago and It finnally hit me, that this is going to be the rest of my life. I am not going to leave her cold, I still love her to much for that. We have to get her on disability income and insurance. To be continued……
The house is paid for so she can have that and most of what is in the banking accounts. I still love her but don’t think I can go though much more of this. My own mental health is starting to fail.

I am so sorry. I wish there were a way to fix this disease.

My lover diagnosed bipolar did not sleep next to me and said it was because of the disorder. Is this true? Or was it just a scape? Though I can’t doubt the fact that I was loved very much. But sleep was always a big problem for us.
I don’t snore. Don’t have any faults in sleeping.
Maybe he did not love me as much as he claimed.
Despite the fact that I have been hurt really badly by this relationship, I would love him…always…

It is possible for a person experiencing a depressive episode to feel more disconnected from the people around them, and thus need to concentrate on that feeling by isolating themselves in whatever way they feel is necessary. Just like you don’t feel all touchy-feely when you are sick (I’m not, at least) some people suffering from mental illness tend to pull away during the worst moments, oftentimes because the person doesn’t (or they believe the person doesn’t, which amounts to the same thing) understand them.

Some people also have a problem with physical contact, or have certain ideas about certain places in their house, and thus are less flexible to accommodating those needs when they develop a relationship. Since your lover probably spent more nights alone than with someone before he was with you, the bed can be seen as a very private place, and thus him allowing you to simply sleep in it was about as much a concession as he could emotionally make.

It’s possible he was scamming you, but that possibility has to be balanced against everything else you know, which I know little of.

I am a permanent resident of the United States (originally from Australia). I have a 4yo daughter with my husband of almost 6 years. I have no family in the US. Husband is bipolar (medicated). A few months ago I told him it was over and he threatened suicide and kept me awake all night until I gave in and agreed to counselling. The counselling has improved his behavior, but I still want out. Last time I told him it was over he refused to leave the house. So this time I was planning on leaving with our daughter while he is out of the house. I need advice on how to proceed after I leave (file for divorce right away, filing for emergency custody, TRO’s, etc) I’m just lost. I can support myself and my daughter financially without his help. He is on social security supplemental income because of his bipolar and he does not work right now. I don’t want him alone with our daughter afterwards because of his bipolar and suicidal threats. Advice??
I’m in Texas. I cannot afford an atty/lawyer. I’d need legal aid from somewhere. He’s never been physically violent to me or her, it’s all verbal and emotional. While I don’t believe he would physically harm her I would be worried about neglect as far as feeding, bathing, etc. I would be VERY worried of emotional neglect. When he down swings he thinks of himself and not of others. He would not want to deal with her. He would be, as he has been in the past, verbally abusive (screaming at her to leave him alone when she approaches him, etc). After leaving I know I cannot hide her from him, both from a legal standpoint and also it’s not fair to her. I would feel more comfortable with a supervised setting, for instance, I would agree to visits at his mothers house with his mother present. That way I know my daughter would be fed/bathed, etc And would have someone besides her Dad to rely on. Do you just ask for supervised visitation in court? I just want her safe and cared for.

This is tough because unless you can prove that he has harmed her in the past or there are records of his being hospitalized with suicidal thoughts, the court is going to allow visitation alone with her, especially if he is medicated and under a doctor’s care. Unfortunately, in the US, you have to actually DO wrong before you can be held accountable. The threat is not enough. You could ask for supervised visitation if there is any record of him hitting you or the child, but there has to be prior proof of harm. You could get a TRO, maybe, for yourself, but we all know that they are hard to enforce and really afford very little actual protection.

You need to consult an attorney and file for a temporary orders hearing. Then move out right before he is served with ANY type of notice. Once you go to the temporary orders hearing, you will know what the judge wants from each of you and you will be able to produce any evidence of why he shouldn’t be able to see her alone – which is extremely difficult.

I stayed married for 18 years to a very abusive man with borderline personality disorder for the same reasons – to protect my children from being with him alone for fear that he would either neglect or abuse them in my absence. I thought that I might be able to leave earlier annd took relevant pictures of things like his loaded guns lying around the house, his psychiatric medications lying around where the kids could get into them, his pornography collection, etc…, but I was never certain that the court would do what was right and disallow unsupervised visitation.

GOOD LUCK AND GOD BLESS!

A person diagnosed with bipolar disorder, a severe and disabling mental health issue, is faced with common factors like denial and aggression, which needs to be overcome by loved ones who can observe and help the person get medical help necessary to control and treat the manic-depressive episodes that can be harmful for the individual.

Health is wealth is an oft-used saying but it can never be emphasized enough: in the case of persons with a serious mental health issue such as manic-depressive disorder that causes them intense and overwhelming mood swings (sudden highs and lows, happy to sad and back to happy again etc.), this can mean an inability to function productively in society, which is something all of us as social beings need.

Thus, while a person may look in the pink of health, when it comes to mental health, if the person cannot function normally in society and even pose a potential threat to his or her own well-being as well as others around them (since manic-depressive people can indulge in dangerous activities such as substance abuse and even suicide), it is a question of doing the right thing by community and family standards.

Get help! Don’t be afraid to acknowledge your problem! We are there for You! These are the kind of messages a person diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder needs to hear in order to know they have a support group that is aware of their problem and emotional pain and is ready at hand to help and motivate, whenever needed.

Right from educating the patient about various aspects of the disease to advising them for undergoing basic clinical testing to verify the initial diagnosis (if home diagnostic method is used to ascertain the condition) to being beside them at every stage of the therapy, the patient’s support group is instrumental in encouraging his or her step forward towards better health, through tools for improving motor skills, speech co-ordination with thought as well as helping the patient control mood swings and frequency.

Simply put, a bipolar patient has a brain that has a chemical imbalance so that certain commands and daily activities cannot be carried out, at times due to lack of focus, at others, due to loss of motor control. While getting happy and sad are normal emotions, in a person affected by this disorder, there are extreme and sudden reactions to the emotions to the extent that the person fails to elicit a normal reaction from the brain and can harm their body, such as suicide attempts by 1 in 5 bipolar patients suggests it can result in.

This of course, is the extreme form of bipolar disorder manifesting itself through manic-depressive mood swings, but other negative impacts of this illness include impaired relationships, reduced performance in academics and loss of personal-professional work-life balance that is necessary to control for fear of the patient taking extreme steps to end his life or lash out at others around him.

For this reason, early detection is necessary to facilitate early treatment and the family or close friends’ circle should be taken into confidence to be educated about the nature of the condition (type of bipolar mood disorder the person is suffering from, which measures are best for controlling and treating it, what are signs they should beware of etc.). Since there is no cure for bipolar mood disorder, psychotherapy coupled with proper medication and counseling sessions that include the patient and the support group can help a patient manage the illness and lead a normal, productive and meaningful life.

Abhishek Agarwal
http://www.articlesbase.com/mental-health-articles/bipolar-disorder-patients-how-a-support-group-can-help-739481.html

I agree with what other people have said about getting your spouse to a MD, a therapist and on meds.

For her & you…Google: NAMI >>Bipolar

They have a national # and have state branches. They have info; family support groups; educational groups; support groups for people with bipolar; referrals.

Good Luck to you.